Men and feminists

I don't really like the word "feminism".  I'll be honest.  It has too many social connotations of being a man-hating bitch, and most of the feminists I've met in my life have been pretty laid back "live and let live" types.  The other reason I don't like it is that it vaguely implies it's just for women.

The thing about feminism is that it is beneficial to essentially everyone in society.  Feminism, at its core is, much to the contrary of some misogynistic mens' ideas about it, not about how women are inherently better; instead, it focuses on a few main points that apply equally to everyone:

1. Mutual respect -- Most of the feminists I've met do not believe such bizarre things as "all men are rapists" or "all men are pigs".  They believe in respecting themselves enough to stand up for what they want in life, and in respecting others in a mutually-respectful environment.
2. Self-determination -- All people, regardless of their gender, should have the right to go where they want in life, unhindered by a notion that "good girls don't swing from poles" or that "good boys don't cut hair for a living".  People can choose for themselves, both men and women.
3. Gender equality -- Regardless of what some ultra-conservatives may think, there is no good reason for women to be subservient to men based on their naughty bits.  None.  Relationships don't need to be (and, honestly, shouldn't be) adversarial in nature, and a man can be a secretary to a woman just as well as a woman can be a secretary to a man.  Shock.

So, instead of dismissing feminism as "women's work", gentlemen, how about we work together with the women to make the world a better place -- although, I won't blame you if you pick a new name.